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title: "Pieces falling into place…mm…familiar with that feeling."
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date: 2018-10-18
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Pieces falling into place…mm…familiar with that feeling.
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Animosity based silence…so I can think of a few people that fit into that. The person in question in the original piece? (Referred to as capital She/Her) I’m not actually sure. Guess I won’t know until/if I reach out, but it has so much potential to be a can of worms…
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No physical aggression here, but hate was spewed in spite, as it too often is. Wish I could say I was better than that, but here we are. And I did the same thing in the next relationship — in fact, she reached out some months later to ‘check up’. May be related to her breaking up with me, though. (Semi related: <https://medium.com/@krisgage/the-other-side-of-a-breakup-6bc4a623fab4>)
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Again, never any physical aggression for me, so I can’t speak for that side of it. Was it emotionally abusive though? I’d like to say it depended on (big *IF)* Her intentions were genuine, but the fact I even have to ask that question points to it being abusive, I’d say. Or at the very least just toxic, intentional or otherwise.
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On that note, somehow I feel like I should be the one giving an apology, even though She initiated the breakup both times…I can’t tell if that’s just my nature, or aftershocks of trickery, if it ever existed.
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Trying things again…I don’t think I would with anyone I’ve previously dated. One was classic co-dependency on both sides, side of crazy for her. One was…Her. And the next…hmm. Maybe I would try that one again, in an alternate future.
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Come to think of it, that’s a slight lie. Me and Her technically dated twice. Though the second time lasted barely a week and me agreeing to try again was never in question, so wrapped up in her was I, still.
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If there ever was a *good* cause for ending things via text, I’d say your situation is it! The subconscious so often does know, doesn’t it — mine sure did going into the relationship with Her!
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As for the crossing of paths again…I don’t often say this but it sounds like Fate/insert your equivalent. I’m so glad to hear you’ve achieved true peace with both of them!
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And yes…all that to say that, and all of my reply to say this…
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Thank you for sharing your own story, and your advice. And for the well wishes. Inevitably I will take the easy out and let silence reign. Although…we did make *really* good friends before we tried to date…
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