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| post | Pieces falling into place…mm…familiar with that feeling. | 2018-10-18 |
Pieces falling into place…mm…familiar with that feeling.
Animosity based silence…so I can think of a few people that fit into that. The person in question in the original piece? (Referred to as capital She/Her) I’m not actually sure. Guess I won’t know until/if I reach out, but it has so much potential to be a can of worms…
No physical aggression here, but hate was spewed in spite, as it too often is. Wish I could say I was better than that, but here we are. And I did the same thing in the next relationship — in fact, she reached out some months later to ‘check up’. May be related to her breaking up with me, though. (Semi related: https://medium.com/@krisgage/the-other-side-of-a-breakup-6bc4a623fab4)
Again, never any physical aggression for me, so I can’t speak for that side of it. Was it emotionally abusive though? I’d like to say it depended on (big IF) Her intentions were genuine, but the fact I even have to ask that question points to it being abusive, I’d say. Or at the very least just toxic, intentional or otherwise.
On that note, somehow I feel like I should be the one giving an apology, even though She initiated the breakup both times…I can’t tell if that’s just my nature, or aftershocks of trickery, if it ever existed.
Trying things again…I don’t think I would with anyone I’ve previously dated. One was classic co-dependency on both sides, side of crazy for her. One was…Her. And the next…hmm. Maybe I would try that one again, in an alternate future.
Come to think of it, that’s a slight lie. Me and Her technically dated twice. Though the second time lasted barely a week and me agreeing to try again was never in question, so wrapped up in her was I, still.
If there ever was a good cause for ending things via text, I’d say your situation is it! The subconscious so often does know, doesn’t it — mine sure did going into the relationship with Her!
As for the crossing of paths again…I don’t often say this but it sounds like Fate/insert your equivalent. I’m so glad to hear you’ve achieved true peace with both of them!
And yes…all that to say that, and all of my reply to say this…
Thank you for sharing your own story, and your advice. And for the well wishes. Inevitably I will take the easy out and let silence reign. Although…we did make really good friends before we tried to date…